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After Baby's Death in Hot Car, Fundraiser Aims to Bolster Mother's Defense

Zoraida Magali Conde Hernandez faces felony child neglect charge in Arlington jury trial later this month.

Zoraida Magali Conde Hernandez and two of her children. Nathan, the infant on the right, is the child who died in July. Submitted photo
Zoraida Magali Conde Hernandez and two of her children. Nathan, the infant on the right, is the child who died in July. Submitted photo

News this past summer that an 8-month-old baby boy died after being left in a hot car in Arlington provoked a wide range of reactions — horror, sorrow, anger and, among other feelings, confusion: How can a mother forget her child?

Tom and Crystal O'Neill reacted with sympathy and compassion.

"After having a baby, I became much more sensitive and worried about it happening to us. Because it really can happen to anybody," Crystal O'Neill told Patch. "I'm a busy working mom with a very demanding life. And I can just see that happening. When Tom shared the news, it was heartbreaking. I was heartbroken for her. Because this happens to loving, caring parents."

Zoraida Magali Conde Hernandez, 32, faces a felony child neglect charge stemming from the incident, which happened July 5 in the 200 block of North Glebe Road in Arlington. The infant, Nathan, had been in her car for about six hours while she was at work.

Conde Hernandez told police she thought she had dropped the little boy off at his Head Start program before going to work. She realized he was still in the car that afternoon after picking up her 2-year-old daughter from daycare. Nathan was unresponsive and, according to a Washington Post account of a November court hearing, he was purple. She rushed the baby to Inova Alexandria Hospital, where he was pronounced dead. Nathan's temperature was 108 degrees.

Tom O'Neill knew Conde Hernandez through the Catholic Diocese of Arlington, where they both worked. He and his wife are trying to raise $50,000 to help cover Conde Hernandez's legal costs. Such cases can cost as much as twice that, but Conde Hernandez's attorney, Rebecca Wade, has worked to hold fees down.

"We made a commitment to help her, so that's the most important thing," Wade told Patch.

"These fights are tough," Crystal O'Neill said. "Not only are you having to go through it while you're dealing with the devastation of this loss, and your family's dealing with it, the financial cost is insurmountable."

They've got a long way to go. After several months, they've raised about $4,000. The fundraising website is www.aidzoraida.com.

There, they share an excerpt from Gene Weingarten's Pulitzer prize-winning 2009 feature in the Washington Post, "Fatal Distraction," which attempts to answer how people can forget their own children.

“What kind of person forgets a baby?,” Weingarten asked. “The wealthy do, it turns out. And the poor, and the middle class. Parents of all ages and ethnicities do it. Mothers are just as likely to do it as fathers. It happens to the chronically absent-minded and to the fanatically organized, to the college-educated and to the marginally literate. In the last 10 years, it has happened to a dentist. A postal clerk. A social worker. A police officer. … A Protestant clergyman. … An assistant principal. It happened to a mental health counselor, a college professor and a pizza chef. It happened to a pediatrician. It happened to a rocket scientist.”

Nationwide, 43 children died from heat stroke in a vehicle in 2013, making it tied as the third-worst year for such deaths since 2000, according to KidsandCars.org, which tracks child non-traffic fatalities.

Conde Hernandez was indicted in November. Her three-day jury trial begins at 9:30 a.m. on Jan. 27 in Arlington County Circuit Court.

Under Virginia law, the state must prove that Conde Hernandez harmed her child "by willful act or omission or refusal to provide any necessary care for the child's health…"

If she is found guilty, the law mandates a punishment of between two and 10 years in prison and a fine of up to $100,000.

"The case law in my opinion seems to state that a willful act is something that's not accidental. That's why we feel we have a good case — because we feel this was accidental, not willful. The issue for the jury is whether it was a willful act or omission," Wade told Patch.

"...Our hope is that the jurors are able to put aside their emotional reaction to what happened and look at what the law requires, and the law requires willfulness."

Deputy Commonwealth's Attorney Molly Newton, who is prosecuting the case, did not return a call seeking comment.

Part of the money Tom and Crystal O'Neill hope to raise is to bring in expert witnesses for the defense, including experts on memory.

"These experts really have an understanding of why and how this kind of tragedy can occur," Crystal O'Neill said. "Because a lot of people have trouble wrapping their heads around how you can forget a child. But the truth of it is it's not that they've forgotten a child. It's far more complicated than that."

In July, an Arlington judge set a $25,000 bond for Conde Hernandez and ordered her not to have unsupervised contact with her four other children. Alexandria Child Protective Services later deemed that was unnecessary and asked the court to lift that order, Wade said.

And so, Conde Hernandez is home in Alexandria, raising those four children with the help of her boyfriend and mother.

The O'Neills, an Alexandria couple expecting their second child, are hopeful that people in the greater Washington region will share their sympathy for what Conde Hernandez is going through.

"People are going to react in different ways," Tom O'Neill said. "A lot of people are going to be very sympathetic to her. Some won't. Probably a lot of people will react sort of like Crystal and I did — that this was clearly an accident. You've got a family that was traumatized by this, and here comes the state, not trying to help her, but to punish her further. I think a lot of people will want to support her in this time of need."

To learn more or make a donation, visit www.aidzoraida.com.

Any extra funds will be donated to charity, Tom O'Neill said.

Hawa Coulibaly January 16, 2014 at 11:51 AM
First, I empathize with the loss of a child. Secondly, I do no have sympathy for this mother. There is no stress in this world that can cause me to forget my child or any child in the car, whether winter, summer, spring or fall. No excuses!
Crystal Prince O'Neill January 16, 2014 at 12:23 PM
If you are a parent to a young child - particularly one in a rear-facing seat, I hope you take caution. Those who aren't aware/vigilant are most susceptible. Most of the parents who have had this happen all thought the same thing. As noted in the article -- these parents don't just "forget" their child, it's much more complex than that. Kidsandcars.org has tips to make sure it doesn't happen to you -- the one I like best is to always place your purse, wallet, phone and/or bag in the back seat with your child.
Hawa Coulibaly January 16, 2014 at 12:47 PM
Was her mind ever on the baby? What I can't understand is, when she dropped the two year at school, did she not see the baby? Did she leave him in the car then to? I just can't understand that! My son was once rear facing and every time I dropped him off to daycare, psychologically, I kept feeling that he was still in his seat, and therefore, before I left my car, I always made an effort to check his seat , even on days that I'm running late... I'm just one of those people who take patenting very seriously, I never forget my child. Why should someone need advice to leave their purse or phone on back seat? Are those things easier to remember than your child?
Crystal Prince O'Neill January 16, 2014 at 01:16 PM
I hear where you're coming from. Please read Gene Weingarten's story -- it's very enlightening on this topic. This is a modern phenomena that jumped when children were moved to the back seat, and "skyrocketed" when NHTSA directed parents to turn toddlers under 2 to rear facing. There would likely be double the amount of incidents if it was summer year round. Look Before You Lock is KidsandCars.org's mantra for addressing this issue -- to always always do it so it's part of one's routine. So I'm happy to hear you always did. In a lot of these tragedies, the parent's routine is thrown off and their memory tells them they've dropped their child off -- so they aren't looking for a baby in the back. At the same time, their mind wants to direct them back to their routine, which is why one of the recs is to leave an item you always carry on you in the back seat -- out of routine people grab for their bag/wallet/phone and having to reach in the backseat to get it is at least one more mental trigger to try and help prevent more cases like this. Really, read Gene's story.
Hawa Coulibaly January 16, 2014 at 03:36 PM
Great points.... You are right, accidents happen to all of us, I just hope everyone makes an effort to be very cautious and aware when you have children because they need us to protect them...
Dana Burnette January 17, 2014 at 07:08 AM
You should be more careful with kids because they are more important to you and to us as well.
antob January 17, 2014 at 07:10 AM
This is beyond awful-again-she has a lot of children. Why do people have so many kids?! And stop having kids with "boyfriends" also- if you're interested in having a child, give them a solid two parent family with a commitment they can be confident in. Dumb
Danny Donahue January 17, 2014 at 08:17 AM
I have absolutely no mercy for this "mother". Say whatever you want, quote whatever quack you want - the is NO EXCUSE. My kids always come first and I know exactly where each of them was at every minute of their young lives. This wasn't some "mistake" this woman neglected her infant in much the same way that a drug addict neglects their child - because she had "more important" things on her mind. There is NOTHING more important than that child that depends on his/her mother/father for their very lives. In this case, the mother failed horribly. There are people here defending this woman "now the state wants to punish her further". Don't give me that bs - that little boy suffered severely for those six long hours where his body temp slowly rose, his organs shut down, pain racked his body, and confusion set in because no one answered his cries. His mother deserves to have that thought in her mind every minute of every day for the rest of her life. She caused that little boy's horrible, senseless death and there is no excuse for such negligence...
Hawa Coulibaly January 17, 2014 at 11:00 AM
Danny- I completely agree with u... My heart aches for the pain that baby endured! I know she didn't leave him in purpose, however, your child has to be on your mind always, to the degree that you seem paranoid.
Kim Simons Miranda January 17, 2014 at 09:37 PM
I have nothing but sympathy for this woman, and I find it shocking that people are so heartless with their comments. It's clear to me that this was a horrible accident. In the original report, it stated that she ran into the ER, completely frantic with the baby still in the car seat. That's not a mother who was trying to kill her child, that's a mother who just realized the unthinkable had happened. This could happen to anyone.
Elena Caudle Hutchison January 17, 2014 at 09:39 PM
You guys are heartless. I can't imagine the pain this mother went through, and it's insane to me that the state would treat this as a criminal act.
Kelly Ferguson January 17, 2014 at 09:43 PM
I understand how it can happen...but come on now, we can't just say "oopsie". It is child neglect at the end of the day. She should be charged and tried. Leniency where appropriate is best left to the judge at sentencing.
Danny Donahue January 17, 2014 at 10:07 PM
I have three happy, healthy adult children. This kind of thing could NOT "happen to anyone". None of my children died horrible deaths because I strapped them into a car seat and left them to bake. Sorry about your bleeding heart - this woman NEGLECTED her child and he died because of her incompetence. Whine all you want, the facts are the facts. And, for the record, I'm glad she's distraught and I hope this haunts her for the rest of her days...
Nahid Zare January 17, 2014 at 11:45 PM
32, 5 children and no husband! Please do not call it accident. Killing your children is not accident. She obviously does not care otherwise she would not have given birth to 5 kids, God knows from how many different guys. You would have not forgotten if you were not so careless to have 5 kids in the first place. Accidents do not happen accidentally. She has a history of carelessness behaviour sleeping with guys and getting pregnant. I have no sympathy.
kaj4 January 20, 2014 at 04:08 PM
--First, the mother showed that she had more children than she could competently care for. She was clearly negligent. --Second, she demonstrated irresponsibility by having five children with little to no means to support them and placed a burden on the taxpayers. Maybe she could take some parenting classes in jail and learn to staunchly use highly effective birth control (e.g., >97%)? --Third, don't let her get off scot free like Miles Harrison did in 2008 (Loudoun Cty.)! Wasn't there another area man who also got off scot free for leaving one of his many (15-19) children in a car and the child died? --Does she speak, read, and write English? Maybe she could improve her English in jail? --Are her remaining kids in foster care? Is it legal to put them up for adoption as a unit, as difficult as it may be?
Robert Rader January 20, 2014 at 06:04 PM
Your first and most important role as a parent is to keep your children alive by feeding, clothing and caring for them. She failed at this most important and basic role. An innocent little child suffered and lost his life because of her actions. Pretty basic. In my humble opinion, the moment you do something like this, you no longer deserve the title of "good parent". If you really think you're too busy and could possibly do this, please give your kids to somebody that has the time to care for them.
Hawa Coulibaly January 21, 2014 at 09:31 AM
To those of you who sympathize with this mother : shame on you! Do you also emphasize with what that poor baby went through before his horrific death? There are no excuses for forgetting your child in the car! Period !!

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